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November 2016

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The ‘Silent Victims’ of Domestic Violence

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Each year, thousands report incidents of Domestic Violence in Queensland. Each year the data collected does not account for the ‘perpetrators accountability.’ It is apparent that women are reported to having the highest rate of being the victims. However, the ‘silent victims’ the men, go unreported (Siek, 2012).

The statistics show that women are 5 times more likely to end up in hospital suffering from injuries caused by men and 3.6 times more likely to be killed by their male perpetrators. Dating back to statistics in 2006, it was found that 443,800 women were reported to have suffered violent attacks whilst 808,300 men had reported physical abuse by their female partners.  It appears that men have been ignored as suffering from physical acts of domestic violence by their partners. In addition, rates of physical violence have been equal between men and women including the same levels of non-physical violence (Siek, 2012).

Sgt Mark Knight who is the Yarra Ranges Family Violence Co-ordinator in Victoria, has stated that eight of the 22 victims of domestic violence were reported as men. Current reports show the rising trend of males as victims of domestic violence (Webb, 2012).

A study by Drijber, Reijdners and Ceelen (2013), in the Journal of Family Violence, illustrated that males are less likely to report domestic violence to police unless they have been physically assaulted. They are unlikely to report psychological abuse as it is difficult to prove. It was also found that men found it difficult to deal with police because they were not taken seriously.

The current funding of $100 million dollars towards domestic violence has not targeted the reality that women too are perpetrators of domestic violence.
Are we then, scapegoating our young men in order to get the funding? Are we branding all our young boys and men with the label as potential perpetrators?
The current domestic violence laws in Queensland do not adequately protect our male victims. Maybe the current laws should enforce a “zero-tolerance message” (Siek, 2012)

We should be looking at how we teach ALL our young adults the right way and what is acceptable in a relationship.

Many of us have been victims of domestic violence. Therefore, we should not ignore the facts to maintain the status quo.  It is time to start presenting the truth and support anyone that needs our help, whether they be male or female.

If you or anyone knows of a male that is suffering Domestic Violence, there are excellent resources from the ‘One in Three Campaign’ website. Please feel free to call now for details or if you need a Sound Board please, call or send me an email. Confidentiality and discretion assured.

Drijber, B. C., Reijdners, U. J., & Ceelen, M. (2013). Male Victims of Domestic Violence. Journal of Family Violence, 28(2), 173.
Siek, A. (2012). Men: The hidden victims of domestic violence. Pandora’s Box , 89-94.
Webb, E. (2012). More men domestic violence victims. Free Press Leader. Victoria.


Students who are Bullied by their Supervisors

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As a student doing their practicum, sometimes it may feel as if you are sitting on your own and forcing yourself trying to look like you are in control.

Many university students undergoing their practicums to gain ‘hands on’ experience within their chosen field have experienced supervisors who are basically out to ruin the student’s experience. Some supervisors feel threatened by the student’s capabilities, especially if the student is of mature age.

I know of two students who were harassed and bullied to such as extent, they are still experiencing PTSD today. One student was so badly treated they were removed from their practicum. The second student was even told by their supervisor that they would give them a difficult time.
When I did a student practicum, I too experienced trauma. In my case my supervisor waited until the last week before creating trouble.

The tertiary institutions rarely back their students up for fear of not being able to allocate more students to placements within the same organisation. If you are a student experiencing trauma within the workplace don’t sit there and take it. You have rights just like everyone else. Just make sure you have proof on paper or witnesses that can attest to the fact that your supervisor is or has given you a difficult time.

However, when searching for a witness, as I said in a previous post co-workers will always put their job first. From a previous blog, 10 Ways to Protect Yourself in the Workplace, when it comes to students, the the same rules should apply.

If you are experiencing difficulty and need someone to talk to or to advocate, simply give me a call. I know, I have been there, I understand. Don’t judge your future career on someone that is threatened by your skills and knowledge. Remember, people usually lash out if they feel threatened.

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